How to be an Effective Mentor

Mentoring can be one of the most effective means of teaching: inviting someone to learn from the example of another with more experience. Whether through apprenticeships, internships or less-formal relationships, walking alongside an experienced practitioner can impart essential skills, attitudes and knowledge.

Being a mentor doesn’t mean having all the answers to every question. A good mentor know which questions to ask to stimulate development in their protégeé.

Some of the questions mentors ask:

  • What are your hopes and dreams for the future?
  • How can I help you?
  • Where are your skills being tested?
  • Where is your character being tested?
  • How is your relationship/communication style effecting what you are trying to accomplish?
  • What are some new things you could try?
  • What are some things that would help you to have more integrity?
  • What challenges have you faced and what were some of the effects of those challenges?
  • How has that shaped who you are?
  • How can you use your past to prepare you for the future?
  • Even though things haven’t worked out as you’d hoped, what are you learning from that?
  • As you assess your growth, where do you see yourself right now?