Get together and write a list of what everyone wants to do – decide what is really important, and if possible prioritise
Make a list of who needs to see who – particularly important with extended stepfamilies.
Use a calendar – make a note of which family members are doing what and when.
Schedule in some time to recharge your own batteries – if you’re well rested you’ll be able to enjoy your family more.
Don’t try and do everything yourself – make a list of jobs which need to be done and allocate them between the whole family.
Don’t try and keep everyone happy all the time – you’ll collapse under the pressure.
If this is your first Christmas as a stepfamily your child may feel confused and maybe even angry – try to allocate some time that you can spend alone together to reassure them that your love for them has not changed.
Adults don’t have to enjoy being with children all the time – allow some time for you to be alone with your partner, other family members or friends.
Don’t assume that everyone else is having a wonderful time – everyone else is muddling through just like you, so try not to put pressure on yourself.
